Podcast 280 Can Lack of Boundaries Keep us from THRIVING!

ur light not our darkness that most frightens us) Part of a quote from Marianne Williamson

.    Go for it!  I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out!  What do you want them to say about you?

Healthy Boundaries, what does that look like?  Did you know that our boundaries are formed from infancy on?  If our parents don;t have healthy boundaries because of needs not being met they pass on those unhealthy behaviors to us .  As we raise our children are we teaching them healthy boundaries by letting them make mistakes and letting them face the consequences of those mistakes or are we always rescuing them so they don;t have to take responsibility for their choices?  Take a look at your relationships, in your own family of origin.  The family you created, co-workers, friendships.  If you are struggling anywhere it could be because healthy boundaries have not been established.   Read Boundaries by  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.

Gratitude is a helpful tool and for some of us it takes practice.  Especially if you have been raised in an alcoholic home or a dysfunctional home.  Growing up i heard a lot of complaints. Seldom did I hear praise or thankfulness I was too busy surviving.  It wan’t until I was in my thirties when I heard Oprah talk about a gratitude journal.  To this day its a daily practice.   I ask God to show me where I can be grateful and I thank God for at least 5 things daily that I am grateful for.  Every morning i wake up I am grateful and thank God and through out the day and before I go to bed. Try it you might be pleasantry surprised.


Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to?  Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted?  Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others?  What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.  Do you know that we have secrets we loose power.  I’m not saying share everything with every body, I am saying you need to speak with some one you trust a mentor, a counselor and good friend that will validate your feelings and help you gain freedom. I assert when we have no secrets we start on the road to freedom, we become un mess able.  No one can harm us!  Try it out.  Keeping secrets keep us separate and alone, isolated from reality. We think we are the only ones.  I can’t share that what will they think of me.   When we start sharing with safe people we hear I went through that too, this is what I did when that happened.


Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is  not useful! (wendy b)

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