When you can’t control whats happening. Challenge yourself to control the way you respond to whats happening. That is where the power is.!
Do you notice you have expectations of how your partner, your children, your siblings, etc are ? You getting the picture? When they don’t respond or act the way you think they should you get annoyed maybe downright Righteous.
When was the last time you were annoyed with someone, particularly someone you are close to? Were you annoyed because they didn’t act or say something the way you felt they should have? How is the going for you. Is your relationship fulfilling and full of joy? Or is it a bit tense sometimes? Are you becoming so righteously good you are no earthly good?
Try responding with love rather than criticizing. Try being curious. What would make them behave that way towards you. Not like its okay for them to be disrespectful.. Most times you are the safest one they can vent on so you get their worst. Today my oldest daughter was biting. She had been really loving for six weeks than all of sudden she was controlling, biting and down right rude. I thought what has got her panties in a knot. Then I realized today one year ago her dad died. I let her know I loved her and if this behavior continued she should go to church on her own and I would go home and catch up on some work. She chose to go alone. Two things I did, One was love myself enough to not hang out with someone who was being disrespectful. Two, loved her regardless and did not get upset , I did not take it personal. I pray she had a good night and tomorrow I will send her a loving message. Try giving extra love when the people you love are not behaving loving. Get curious and try to walk in there shoes. Please don’t hear I condone bad behavior, I don’t. There is ways to deal with it loving without shaming or being righteous. Try and see if a little bit of self love, boundaries and not taking it personal and giving love back to them contributes to a more loving relationship. .
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Go for it! I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out! What do you want them to say about you?
Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted? Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others? What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.
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