When we are attached to a point of view (like they are not committed) (they keep breaking their word so they obviously don’t want to do the work) That isn’t necessary true. When we get curious whats going on with this person, especially if this habitually happens, something else can emerge for that persona and ourselves.
POINTS OF VIEW
If we could look beyond our should’ s or points of view. As leaders or a coaches, parents, teachers. If we got curious why people are saying what they are saying or got curious why people are reacting and not doing what they say . If we asked whats going on with this person that they are speaking this way or that this situation is happening, it could get very interesting.
If we got curious and got the person who is reacting to get curious. Ask them whats really going on with you and make it really safe for them to share authentically, rather then blaming, shaming or forcing an outcome.
They could be stuck with a view that isn’t serving them and they are taking actions from that point of view. Look at when you are stuck in views from ( should’s) the only actions you can take are blaming, making someone wrong or yourself wrong or it wrong There is no access for you or them to cause a breakthrough that could cause a different outcome. Their is a predicable outcome when we are coming from an attached point of view.
When I’m curious I’m listening to that person or situation from a totally different view. That gives me access to new ways of speaking and new actions to take. So look and see are you stuck in a view about someone or a situation that doesn’t serve you or them? My invitation is to look as if you are exploring how to get unstuck and thrive. :Look at where you are not being curious? Where are you being right about that person or situation? Ask yourself what am I committed in this situation? If my point of view shifted what could become available.
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Go for it! I want on my grave stone she burned out instead of rusted out! What do you want them to say about you?
Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted? Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others? What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.
Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)
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