There are 7 Deadly Emotions of Caregiving
Guilt
Caregiver guilt is an especially corrosive emotion because you are beating yourself up over faults that are imagined. unavoidable – or simple humane. that’s counterproductive at a time when you need to be your own best advocate..
Resentment
Risks of resentment: Without enough support or noncaregiving outlets, feelings of being ignored, abandoned, or criticized can fester into anger and depression.
Anger
What causes anger: We get mad for reasons both direct (a balky loved one, an unfair criticism, one too many mishaps in a day) and indirect (lack of sleep, frustration over lack of control, pent-up disappointment)
Worry
What causes worry: Good intentions love, and wanting the best for your loved ones are the wellsprings of worry. Focusing intensely on the what-ifs provides a perverse kind of comfort to the brain. If we are worrying we are engaged. Of course, that ultimately triggers more worry and u[set because it is engagement without accomplishing anything,
Loneliness
What causes loneliness: Friends may back away out of uncertainty or a belief they are not wanted. Intense time demands lead you to drop out of outside activities. If you are dealing with dementia, the loss of your loved ones former level of companionship is another keenly felt social loss adding to isolation.
Grief
What causes Grief: Although most people link grief with death, anticipatory grief is a similar emotion felt by caregivers who are coping with a loved one’s long-term chronic illness, especially when there are clear loses of ability (as in dementia) or when the diagnosis is almost certainly terminal.
Defensiveness
Protecting yourself is good – to a point
What causes defensiveness: When you are doing so much, its only natural to bristle at suggestions that there ight be different or better approaches. Especially if you are feeling stressed, insecure, or unsure, hearing comments or criticisms by others, or reading information that is contrary to your views can inspire knee-jerk response of self-protection: “I’m right/ that’s wrong!”
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Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted? Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others? What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.
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