Were in your life are you comfortable and what is the impact?
Impact (to have an impact or effect on; influence alter:) The decision may impact your whole career.
I’m not saying all areas of your life need to be stretched. I’m saying not as a truth but as a possibility. If you want to have aliveness in your relationships you might have to stretch.
Where are you comfortable and you are not alive and excited in those areas? I’m suggesting we explore and look. For me, when I’m most alive is when I’m creating. When I’m doing something that might be RISKY FOR ME. Maybe not risky for you but risky for me. So I’m inviting you to look. If we keep doing the same thing or same actions there is a predictable outcome.
I suggest we look in these areas
career and business
Money and your financial situation
Health and Fitness
Family and Relationships
Sex and intimacy which are two separate areas
Dating or what other areas of your life where you are comfortable and not excited?
I’ll give you an example of stretching. For me learning to do online webinars and workshops with my coaching business, as well as learning different things around social media. I’m comfortable with coaching one on one and slowly building my business through referrals. I’m totally uncomfortable with social media and online structures. Using zoom etc. If I want to go Global I need to learn to market myself globally to make the difference I want to. So I am stretching. I need to take new actions and to take new actions I need to learn new skills.
I’m suggesting take an area where you are comfortable and not producing the effective results you want. What do you get out of being comfortable? What’s missing? Like for me in my business what was missing is taking actions that would have me move forward, like taking computer courses. Learn social media, hire a virtual assistant to support me to implement all the new tools.
If you put in what’s missing what could become possible? What’s one new action you could take to bring excitement and aliveness so you can THRIVE?
Are you paying attention to what words you are saying. Because your words create your actions. If you don’t like your actions you need to shift how you word things. Sometimes we are not aware of what we are saying. To get conscious get a note book and write down what you say you want to have happen. Then get two good friends to tell you what is really coming out of your mouth. You might be surprised. What are you saying in your head that you are not speaking,
Let’s say you say you want a committed romantic relationship. Yet when you go on online dating sites you experience some unsavoury characters. Then you start saying see I was right you can’t trust men. Or all the good ones are taken. blah blah bla. The next thing you know you are saying there are no good online dating sites. Then you stop taking action because you have gathered evidence about what these sites are like.. You can’t see any new openings for action. Like create a team around you looking for the type of partner you want and let your friends set you up on dates, etc.
Where in your life are you saying things about your siblings, your friends, your co-workers your parents etc. If you keep seeing them a certain way they have no chance to show up any other way. You will gather evidence to be right about your view of them. You might even enroll others to agree with you so you can be even more right. Ha! You start being so righteously good you are not earthly good. You know what I’m saying?
Start asking some questions that might crack an opening here.
What are you saying about a particular relationship?
Ask yourself is what I am saying creating a new opening for action or a new possibility?
Is what I am saying keeping me stagnant in the relationship and even keeping me stuck?
If I altered what I was saying would it cause something new to show up?
What would I have to give up to create a new conversations in this relationsip?
Give up being right
\Give up being judgmental
Give up being dominiated or avoid being dominated
We are always winning the game we are playing.
Go for it! I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out! What do you want them to say about you?
Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted? Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others? What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.
Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)
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