ARE YOU STUCK in a story that leave you DISEMPOWERED? Picture this: I’m forty-six years old and get a phone call at 3:00 am. from my half-sister; our mother has just died unexpectedly in her sixties. My sister informs me that my mom’s burial will be in three days. At that time, I was a single mom with a 3-year old and a 10-year-old. I could not afford financially or time-wise to fly three thousand miles on short notice.
I found out from my twin brother that my half-siblings didn’t share the reading of the will and they took everything. (later i found out that legally we could have insisted on seeing the will, given we were her children as well). We didn’t receive anything. All the memories of being abandoned were right there for me; they seemed so real to me. My internal voice is ranting, “one more time”, and ” I don’t count.” Who made that story up? Me, and then I gathered all the evidence to support that story, and it’s not hard to justify given I’ve bounced around living in foster homes for most of my youth. Then my distinctions from Landmark Worldwide kicked in, life is a story, it’s all made up. I decided then and there that if I made up, “I don’t count,” I can change the story to one that would free me and empower me.
So I did and some of the creation of my new story is from the truth. Imagine my new empowering story. It goes like this: My mother had insured her common-law husband when he died, the insurance paid for the house that my half-siblings grew up in. Because the house was purchased with the insurance money, my mother felt it was their dad’s legacy to give to them. Inside of this new empowering story, I WASNS ‘T BEING ABANDONED ONE MORE TIME. My half-siblings were being acknowledged by their dad and mom. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
That new statement empowered me, ad I no longer felt abandoned. Wow, I CHANGED THE PAST (ABANDONMENT STORY) ALL WITHIN MINUTES. How powerful is that? You too can rewrite your story and you can rewrite your past or at least the meaning you put on the past. We have patterns everywhere and they evoke emotions and memories.
I was excited to discover this access. When I started to distinguish what was really going on versus my stories that I made up, it allowed me to take ownership, and to realize that I can alter my perception. That might sound crazy, but I have viewed certain experiences a particular way from the past and when I started being responsible and recognizing that what happened was my perception, my internalized conversation, I realized that my creation of, “I don’t count,” and “why bother?” was getting in the way and keeping me stuck. These limiting statements became a barrier by which I viewed life through a limiting lens and I gathered the evidence to confirm my limiting belief of, “I don’t count,” and “what’s the use,” and “Why bother?”
It’s very powerful for you to see this. Landmark Worldwide is a course where you get to distinguish this very powerfully. Check it out. If you can practice this distinction you can have freedom, clarity, and power.
Go for it! I want on my gravestone she burned out instead of rusted out! What do you want them to say about you?
Ask yourself are your actions and speaking in alignment with what you are committed to? Look at what are the habitual patterns that have that commitment thwarted? Are you willing to take responsibility for when it doesn’t go that way you want or the way you expected and clean up your part? Are you willing to let go of Expectations of yourself and others? What are you not being truthful about to yourself and others.
Our thoughts can be like a junk drawer-we need to take inventory and get rid of what is not useful! (wendy b)
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